Who I am and Why am I here? Do I have any place in the Family?

DO I HAVE ANY PLACE IN THE FAMILY? 

The story of his life of 11years is like a very big picture which yet to be filled up with colors in it.

He is the one who is trying his best to manage his life. According to him he has a very difficult life.

He is the one who is trying his best to tackle the situations created by people around him.

He is the one who is trying to prove that he is inquisitive.He is the one who is also trying to prove that he is the smart chap. 

He is the one who is trying and searching constantly what others feel about him. And what others think about him.

He also wants answers on his questions as,Whether he is elder one in the family or a child in the family? 

He is only 11 years old and 2yrs and 3months elder than his little sister. 

The whole story of his life of 11years is like a very big picture which yet to be filled up with colors in it. Family is little aware so took step forward. 

He found discrepancy in what they want from him to understanding him. How actually he is and he wants from his life to what they expect from him.

They are adults but he is bright smart too. They are busy but he has his things to do too. They are ready to understand him but only when he agrees with their thoughts but they are not trying to explain him why? He is the one who believes in logic. They don’t think they need to explain it to him every time. They don’t have time; very busy; upbringing of another child and businesses of the family. 

He also has found out his own ways to resolve these issues around him. He says everyone compares so do I. “ You give her then give it to me too. You praise her then praise me too. You understand her and not me why? What did I do?” 

It was asked me by his parents Is there any medicine to mould him? To make him listen to us? To know him we are adults and we think always great and better? though My eyebrows are up automatically, good part is the family is open. 

What do you think friends, if ever you have any similar situation like this in your life or practice; I am trying my best to help the family. All your suggestions are welcomed.

Be You. Be Your Own Leader.

Be You . Be Your Own Leader.

 a message to a daughter and a son by their ma and pa and also to anyone who is striving hard and moving forward with his / her own effort....

When a person strives hard for the best in life and gets it then what he / she wants. That’s like a glory of life. Everything is set then. Sometimes feels like nothing is remained to achieve more. But No. It’s actually beginning of your new life. It’s New life altogether. That also brings Transition in your life. But always remember that Change is Inevitable, it is ought to happen and now it is happening for Betterment of your life. Progress of our life. Growth and Development of our life. And it is there to add value and meaning in your efforts.

I found people thinking that, “ Why did they strived so hard? If they wouldn’t have strived hard then  they wouldn’t have to face this difficult time in life.”  But Who decides difficulty of time? And how can we be so sure that if ever efforts were not been taken then there will be no difficulty?   The situation can become even worse when no efforts are there than striving hard and taking efforts.

How about Thanking life which is passed by , and also thanking and welcoming  new phase of your life. This phase in your life  is there to check and recheck :: Who You Are? What is your Purpose of Life? What Principals of Life you have? If you know everything already then this is there to recheck. And Thank for giving this particular opportunity, thank for Meeting with new people, knowing new cultures and food, Thank for  Given a chance to prove yourselves. Now and always. 

Be You . Be Your Own Leader...

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MY “PAA”.

My Father ….. When I am writing this, I am remembering his VERSATILITY, INITIATIVES, HARD-WORK, GENEROSITY, INDEPENDENT LIFE, SENSITIVITY, EMPATHY, OPTIMISTIC VIEWS, KIND APPROACH, RESOURCEFULNESS,  DEVOTION, HIS BEING, HIS SEARCH OF JOY IN LIFE, HELPING ADDIVASIE (TRIBAL) PEOPLE…. what not? 

He was the one who was born and brought up in a very rich and thoughtful family, Who’s parents were  been gifted a WADA by the SARDAR OF BHOSALE . The wada then was famous by family name as, “ Vaze Wada.”  They were having Cows and Buffalos,  and also a small temple of the God Datta was there in it. 

He was the one who had been bestowed with a lot of goodies of life, as, Rich languages, Rich living, Rich learning, Rich friendship and resources. And he had all these goodies through out his life. That way he was SUMPTUOUS.

He had the best Physic. Being a Sports-person, he was also a Colour - Holder of Nagpur University. He was one of the best player of his times of POLE- VAULT in his college. He played sports as, Kabbaddi, Kho-Kho, Foot-Ball, Athletics, Swimming, Pole-Vault. He was in the Kabbaddi Team of Nagpur University. And had a Magnificent Win against Pune University at his times. 

He was also Yogachari. Practiced YOGA through-out his life. Getting up 4AM in the morning, Going for a DAWN- WALK, then Practicing YOGA, Reading, Translating(sanskrit into English and Marathi) Going for his work, and after  remembering his Grand-Daughters and Grand-Sons, immediately going to meet them  and living with them for some hours to some days were been his favourite hobby.  He taught us (we all siblings and also my husband Vijay)YOGA. He had also loved to solve word scribbles in his Pass-Time.  He was in Sales and Marketing in Multinationals of that time. His Indo-Western approach always made an impact on all of us.

According to him, life is all about how we take it, and how we move forward. We can keep moving forward even in extreme bad days of our life; Life help us when we think rich. Growing is a continuous process. And no one can stop us from our INNER GROWTH; unless we decide about it.

Money comes and goes, and it comes Late to those who walk on their own path and don’t change it  unnecessarily.  And it comes to those who keep working more, practicing more, learn more, and think and create more. We all siblings learned from him how to blend things wonderfully.  We all are experiencing success through this blending, in our life.

We all have his Sporting Attitude.

We all Love Life, enjoy life and celebrate life; And if something is missing from our life,  we can always try, we strive hard to bring back those things to our life ; then Life becomes amazing. Really. Believe me.

The biggest co-incidence of our life———is———that  my father was born EXACTLY ON GANESH CHATURTHI DAY…..i.e.. FIRST DAY OF GANESH FESTIVAL. And he used to come to my place during Ganapati, And taught my daughter about Shri Ganesh, we started bringing GANESH IDOL every year. And in a way worship both shri Ganesh and rich thoughts of my father.


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"Mazi Aaii."

Mazi Aaii, was the most beautiful woman I know in my life. She was not only beautiful but she was also a very good mother and a very good cook. A very passionate to do things in time and was very hard to catch time when it was very  important in life. 

But…... when did TIME caught her no one realised……..

She was the best event manager. She used to do a lot of preparations before any event, literally... it may be my elder sister's marriage or it may be her own hospitalisation. It may be a study taking hour or it may be my father's arrival from his office. Everything was just as it was needed, wanted, exact of that particular time. 

She was a very graceful lady and very good at ART and HEART. She always had a rich taste, and rich choice. She was a very good dress designer. Her ART of dress designing has acquired by my elder sister.  And her cooking ART was grabbed by my younger sister. For me I got a little bit of her looks and little bit of everything. And one more thing I have taken from her and that is her Feeling language. 

She always used to ask us all, "What is feeling to you?"  Whenever we used to go to her; in the late evening to share everything whatever happened in a day. She used to ask us about feelings and thoughts, about particular situation and what was happening to us. I remember one day Me and my all friends;  we could not play in the evening because a very tall boy was deliberately playing with his FOOT BALL in the ground; Everyone took his side and asked us to play somewhere else, but when she saw me crying she went to that boy and explained him how was it feeling to us and why not you all play together?   She was a very good analyser with very practical approach. 

She had decided a special sweet for all our birthdays. For me- Pooran Poli, my elder sister -Chirote, my younger sister, tirangi Narali bhat,  Goolab Jamoon, and my brother- Shrikhand.  And she used to have plans to make them and keep them ready exactly on our B. days. Mostly she used to cook at night so that she can make them mindfully. She had bought different Dinner Plates for all of us; As soon as we started eating from our own from plate, she took us to the market to buy our own plates.  And we used to have our Lunch and Dinner in the same plate everyday. It was not only hygienic but also it was very easy for us to clean them and keep them back at there places. 

When we were four siblings, she divided the whole house work besides cooking between me and my elder sister. According to her this is how we learn house keeping and she was so correct. We are how we are because of her. We learn a lot while doing things. 

And when she was suffering from her cancer; I still remember on the last day and the last some minutes, When she saw her Son-in -law, (Elder sister's husband) was there in the house to see her; even in that condition she asked us to make TEA for him. 

After her, we all felt that, as if she is still there, anytime she will come and ask us to eat something delicious. All our relatives, friends, family friends felt it, when they visited our home to Console us, to help us, mentioned that as if she was there too, always with us all. She had done a lot of work in the house. She had prepared us all so well that as if she said that;  let her be there with her absence for her journey to the almighty god. And we all will live life  as if she is there with us, all the time. They were right. We all have learned a lot from her. 

And at one point we actually did not want to see her in PAINS she was going through. And important part was she was knowing it. She never wanted us to see her in pains. She would have never liked it.  

So what we all learned from her is that,
"Self help and get helped on TIME. Help others on TIME too. "

What is the most strongest memory you have about your Mother? Would you like to share here? 

Family , Learning

:: My Grand Pas' ::

My Paternal Grand Pa.. I have never seen him, I only know that, he was one of those handful of people who have studied RIG-VEDA. Not only studied but it was MUKHADGATM (By Heart) by him. He used to be invited by many people to recite RIG-VEDA. He is the one who has started VEDA-SHALA (VEDA-SCHOOL) in Mahal area at Nagpur. And was one of the board of directors. His name is still there in the school board.

My Maternal Grand Pa.. He used to come to us in almost every summer holiday. He was an engineer in Railways. Whenever he used to come he used to teach us English and Mathematics. Teaching was his hobby. He had a lot of students. We were very unique students; we used to get all his attention + Chocolates + learning with fun. He never forced his ideas on us. He used to keep his idea slowly in front of us. And used to take our opinion on it; rather it was his style of taking our agreement. 

His visits were delights for us. He used to take us with him for evening walks almost everyday. Every time we used to take new root. Sometimes River, or  Green fields, sometimes Mango trees. On our way back home he used to bought us sugar-cane juice. He was very lovely and lively person. 

While teaching sometimes I still remember he had become a very strict teacher. I mean he kept me hanging for one full day to know correct answer.  Once he gave me something to read, and I was not knowing the pronunciation, he didn't tell me correct answer, he said, keep trying and find out on your own up till tomorrow by 11am. And as time passed I started crying. He did call me and asked me what happened but said try on your own.

If ever you cannot find out the answer then and only then go to appropriate people to ask.  But if you don't try and still you go to people then they may not even help you. Because they don't know your perseverance and your willing to take efforts. So do not stop Trying. Keep trying. This is a message which made a big difference in my life.

I feel privileged to have GrandMas', and GrandPas' who were doing a lot of things in that age and quite ahead of us.

Family, Ganesha

Shree Ganesha of my blog!!!

It is not just about the God Ganesh, but it is about Biggining. The lord Ganesh is the God whom people pray before beginning of any important work. So I am remembering him to begin before my first blog post. When we begin it is said  in my mother tongue i.e. Marathi, as "Shree Ganesha zala ka?" meaning did you begin?

Every year we with our children have Shree Ganesh Festival at home. We have all Ten days festival. Once me and my husband decided to have it for lesser no. of days. say five or one and half days. But my kids strongly opposed with our idea in fact they completely ignored it. And said, " we will keep celebrating it every year and with full ten days. "

So, every year we bring Shree Ganesh idol at home. As my kids or everyone from the family gets time we plan our 10 days celebration. Kids woke up early in the morning for all these days. And help me in decorations and Arati and Prasadam (offering). This God is also called as The God of Wisdom.

When I was small me and my sister we used to ask a lot of questions to our grandmother. She was a poet and used to read a lot. She used to go to temples to give away Nirupana  (teaching with explanation) on Dasbodha, and Shri Bhagwat Gita, also Dnyaneshwari. and Many other Granthas (Holy books) in Hindu Religion. She was supposed to be very knowledgeable person regarding Gods in our family. When my sister and me went to her. She immediately said, "Sagala khaoo Sampla." (The whole sweets-meets are over). But when she understood that we have a question to ask and that though related with the God. She became very happy.

Our Question was Why the Lord Ganesha is called as the Lord of Wisdom? 

A small sigh…. And the things she said…. which is immensely important … when I remember this story I always feel that I am so so fortunate to have grand - mother like her who was having a very practical approach towards life. Those things are still relevant to me as human being, as student of psychology and also as learner and trainer of Emotional Intelligence. 

She said, "If you observe this God carefully, you will find he is having very unique features. very different than other Gods and Goddesses.  Actually he is showing and giving us a message through his uniquely designed organs.  Look at his nose, his ears, his eyes,  they all are telling us something.

She explained in Marathi language the following three things….

1. As soon as possible try to reach closer to the situation.  For that keep your all important organs open. So as he is having Long nose, and big ears. and small eyes, also his big stomach, his four hands, and he has a vehicle called mouse, with all these he  is observing very closely and trying to notice every single detail about the happening around him. 

2. And then collect the information. Do not immediately come on to the conclusion. First understand about it.

3. Become aware about the world. about the things happening around you.  That is the reason this God is called as The god of Wisdom."

The message she gave through her wisdom and to answer our question was amazing and similar to the learning I am having today, the science we learn today.

So let us all become aware more and more every time  to know and understand better.  See you in the another Note next time.